I Love Soft Sex
for all people who love soft sex... (love to kiss, love to touch, love to give massage, love to feel, ...)
- created by vledermuis
My Kind of Soft
Return to DiscussionsAs I get older I want more and more tender intimate and romantic sexual pleasure and freedom to admit that I am gentle soft and like being vulnerable and open with men.
Passionate kissing, caresses and whole body massages are the best. Slow deliberate penetration. Oral worship and lavishing the anus of the other. Men are wonderful creatures filled with true beauty and kindness if allowed to be.
I seek others who want this too
As I get older I want more and more tender intimate and romantic sexual pleasure and freedom to admit that I am gentle soft and like being vulnerable and open with men.Passionate kissing, caresses and whole body massages are the best. Slow deliberate penetration. Oral worship and lavishing the anus of the other. Men are wonderful creatures filled with true beauty and kindness if allowed to be.I seek others who want this tooI couldnt agree more with this! As I get older, this is EXACTLY what I crave!!Very much glad you are finding the same way forward.
It's so beautiful and natural to me and my interest is furthering the same thing in guys that are not afraid to admit they need it.
Don't we all want this too? But it takes mastering the art of communication and consent. That's why I'd much rather talk to anyone first, rather than go cruising in silence with handkerchief codes. There's so much more to it.
I agree. I learned a long time ago that anonymous hookups were just not fulfilling for me. Id much rather connect with someone on a friendship level. Discover some mutual interests. And develop a degree of affinity for each other. It definitely requires a degree of assertiveness and vulnerability for me. Ive also had to learn those skills.
Don't we all want this too? But it takes mastering the art of communication and consent. That's why I'd much rather talk to anyone first, rather than go cruising in silence with handkerchief codes. There's so much more to it.I agree. I learned a long time ago that anonymous hookups were just not fulfilling for me. Id much rather connect with someone on a friendship level. Discover some mutual interests. And develop a degree of affinity for each other. It definitely requires a degree of assertiveness and vulnerability for me. Ive also had to learn those skills.
I have been learning about pleasure and freedom to work with another man who needs that private depth of life and being open to exploring directed and undirected...I am thankful that I seek it too. I'm into the soft feminine and vulnerable aspects of the pleasure of being open and honest with your
man. There's not much more than that in the world and it will take time for me to develop routines again for my brothers selflessly and then for his happiness and I am always open to exploring very well and that is beautiful and very necessary...
Don't we all want this too? But it takes mastering the art of communication and consent. That's why I'd much rather talk to anyone first, rather than go cruising in silence with handkerchief codes. There's so much more to it.
I've been following this thread for a few days now. It's nice to know there are actually other guys who feel the same way as I do. As I get older and more comfortable with my sexuality this is the type of situation I am learning to enjoy. Anonymous hook ups make me very nervous. I feel I am more relaxed in a situation grounded in friendship. Where both guys can be open and comfortable with each other. Not so much taking from each other but rather both sharing in the moment together.. That is what I desire.
Don't we all want this too? But it takes mastering the art of communication and consent. That's why I'd much rather talk to anyone first, rather than go cruising in silence with handkerchief codes. There's so much more to it.
I don't know if that's the case. When I was younger and still very much traumatized by abuse suffered, I couldn't accept anyone touching me for any reason. The first iterations of touch were in heavy BDSM with a very good and patient teacher who understood that I had some serious issues and that it would take a while to work them out. In this time period, I would only accept hard and painful touch as appropriate and it was endurable, and even pleasurable sometimes. But it was a kind of intimacy and I learned from that. Of course, this was all about communication and consent. Verbal and non verbal (I never did the hanky thing I just don't understand it), intuitive and assertive, passive and active, all the ways to read the body the eyes and listen to words for the important information and... my personal favourite: tell Sir what the objective of that training was (I wasn't allowed to know, had to be present and paying attention). The first time was slow and frustrating but he helped me over that and the second time was faster and by the third fourth and fifth trainings I was learning skills very fast and knowing innately what was being taught. This method teaches you to go inside and to feel outwards and understand the acts you are being asked to perform have a purpose and a coherent meaning. It was great training for where I was in life and allowed me to move forward and do more healing.
One of the things people don't realize about cruising culture especially in the 60's 70's and 80's is how repressed, dangerous and illegal cruising was and what the consequences for getting caught was, The number of men who would actually meet for a face to face was very small until the late 80's in most places. I haven't been cruising since the 90's, the culture of mutual respect, reciprocation and discretion with very subtle but sophisticated ways to communicate non verbally was replaced by an aggressive bitchy entitlement culture that put me off it. Of course I had more growing to do, and you're right, cruising culture is an adolescent culture in terms of how much richness and 4depth/history is actually there. Post war we were inventing ourselves and our movement. It's easy to look back now and see that this wasn't a perfect world and that a today solution would have worked then.