Candaulism
Definition 1:Candaulism is the practice where a person (usually a man) gets aroused and experiences pleasure when his/her partner is seen naked by others. Another definition includes sex, but for many it only is about sharing photos or having their wife seen naked. Other definition:Candaulism is the practice where a person (male or female) gets aroused and experiences pleasure seeing his/her...
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Return to DiscussionsOne a side-note, I hope us spitballing about women's brains and nudity isn't ruining the thread for others. But then again anyone is welcome to join in!I'm not so sure about your wife's self-consciousness being on pause. It would be just the opposite. Her self-consciousness would have been enhanced, contributing to wanting to show herself.
Very good point. Even if my wife initially only felt some sense of "discomfort" to the fact that the women she was talking to were naked in front of her, while she was effectively "hiding" from them; the decision to join them and feel more "accepted" by them was certainly a "conscious one." The same when she decided to walk out on the patio where she knew everyone would see her naked. She was purposefully demonstrating that she was no longer hiding her naked body. Makes sense; even if it's still speculation.
I've actually had to speculate a lot on my ex's naked behavior - because she was never really transparent about any of it. When she started dabbling in exhibitionism, she always pulled the "plausible deniability card." "Oh...I wasn't even aware..." Ok, you weren't aware your legs were wide open while laying right on front of the pool. Sure..." Perhaps she was in denial...
My current wife is much more open about her feelings; which can be a good or bad thing lol! I've actually asked her about her shaven pussy being seen, and her response is always candid. "Sure...when I'm paddle-boarding naked of course I know people are going to see me completely exposed! By the way, how does my pussy look with my legs open?!" And from a candaulist perspective, that's much more exciting than constant denial.
I go commando, but my wife is very vanilla. What a thrill it is when I get a glimpse of commando women, especially wives. Would be more fun to have some "show and tell" across the room. Or to be able to write her a note or more. Join a chat and a coffee and a finger or a grope under teh table by each of us, lol. I could write a story. I do this for fun, if you want me to.
I am very fortunate that my wife likes to be seen. When we first got married, we used to visit a nudist club that was rustic. We would sunbathe nude on the grass and go swimming in the pond. When my wife laid on her stomach the men got to see her sexy ass and, when she was on her back, they got to see her breasts and pussy. She was discreet, not deliberately acting in a sexually suggestive manner. She was 25 and had curves in all the right places. I remember one time when the owner's friend showed up at the club. He wasn't a nudist and he gawked at my wife. I didn't like that because he was rude. The owner's wife actually came up to me later because she knew that I was angry. She said that I shouldn't blame the friend for looking at my wife because she did look so nice. I guess my wife did look very tempting. Later on, I learned to enjoy the situation of another man seeing her naked or almost naked as long as the situation was safe and the person was respectful.
A few weeks ago my wife and I were at our resort; and at the end of the day my wife noticed some friends of ours, whom we hadn't had the opportunity to hang out with that day, swimming in the pool. So she decided to go have a chat with them before they left. She didn't want to get in the pool right away, so she decided to stand on the edge while chatting with them. Her legs were slightly apart, "presenting" a full view of her bald vulva from above to our friends and other people in the pool. I was sitting on a lounge chair nearby, observing the scene unfold. Looking at the males in the pool, I could see them furtively glancing up at her bald pussy towering above them. And it put a smile on my face. I thought: "What a great view they're having!" Eventually she decided to step down into the pool to join them for a swim; but it was clear that the moments she'd spent standing naked and fully exposed had made an impression!
My wife doesn't have many of these moments of complete uninhibition; at least not as often as some of our female friends and acquaintances. Which I guess, in a way, makes it more special. It's not always "clear cut" why she does it. Sometimes she's "showing off" her confidence being seen naked; and sometimes she's just so comfortable in that moment that she'd completely oblivious to how exposed she happens to be. When it comes to our friends though, she feels they've all seen her completely exposed at some point anyway; and since they've proven to be respectful: "what's the point in being coy?!" And of course, I love it when it happens.
I do sometimes wish she could be even less uninhibited; like one of our friends who just loves to hang out completely exposed - most of the time. But seeing her pussy has become "uneventful"; even if still enjoyable. Seeing my wife exposed is still an "event" because it's infrequent; and seeing how people react to it is still very "special."
my wife...didn't want to get in the pool right away, so she decided to stand on the edge while chatting with them..."presenting" a full view of her bald vulva from above to our friends... it put a smile on my face. I thought: "What a great view they're having!"...My wife doesn't have many of these moments of complete uninhibition; ... Sometimes she's "showing off" her confidence being seen naked; and sometimes she's just so comfortable in that moment that she'd completely oblivious to how exposed she happens to be...
I enjoyed reading your comment. You felt so much pleasure when your wife stood on the edge of the pool, allowing your friends to have a nice view of her bald vulva. I think you may be right that she was so comfortable in the moment that she was completely oblivious to how exposed she happened to be. Either that, or she was aware but confident enough to stay the way she was. Although I'm sure that the males in the pool were trying to be respectful to your wife, they couldn't help but to glance at her vulva given the way that she was standing there. They must have enjoyed the view. I know that I would have.
My wife has been that way too at our nudist club. She may be showing herself in a very revealing way without realizing the effect that she is having on a person. I think she is so comfortable being nude that she sometimes forgets that. It is the innocent nature of what she is doing that makes it so sexy.
I know what you mean when you say that sometimes you wish that your wife would be even more uninhibited. I sometimes wish that my wife would be more deliberate. For example, if she's sitting at the pool at our nudist club and chatting with a male friend, she could position herself in a more revealing way. She could give him a nice view of her pussy and breasts by turning her chair facing him, but still appear innocent. I like the idea that the person would get a bit teased by looking at her. I think that's mostly harmless.
My wife tended to behave the most uninhibitedly when we were at the dances. We liked to dance nude together. She would also dance with other men, but if it was a slow dance and the person was naked, she would usually at least wear some item of clothing around her waist. I remember one time when she danced with a male friend and they were both completely nude. That was very uncharacteristic for her. He was a good friend so no problem, but he did end up getting an erection.
I like the idea that the person would get a bit teased by looking at her. I think that's mostly harmless.
There are definitely "levels" to candaulism.
On one end of the spectrum, there is what I'd call "hardcore candaulism." I've actually witnessed it in person at Gunnison many years ago.
I was sitting at the beach with my best friend, when I noticed a couple sitting down from me. Their behavior was a bit peculiar. The woman was not just reclining spread-eagled; but her legs were bent - like she was sitting in a gynecological chair. Her man seemed to be encouraging her. Some guys walked by and looked; but then one actually stopped. I guess they made eye-contact or she said something to him; but he started getting hard. And she started playing with her pussy. The guy started masturbating; and a couple of other guys walking by stopped and started doing the same. All under the watchful eye of her man. I was stunned that this was actually happening; as was my friend, who was napping until I woke him to witness the event.
But it didn't last very long. As the masturbation-fest started getting active, I suddenly heard a women screaming at them. Another woman ran to get the Park Rangers. I don't think anyone even had time to cum. All the masturbators were then escorted off the beach; and probably banned for life, if not fined. They probably shouldn't have picked a busy part of the beach for their shenanigans (LOL!)
The man/husband/boyfriend was clearly a "true" candaulist (I only learned there was a term for it fairly recently). His goal was clearly to see his wife/GF exposed to the point that it got other men hard, and blowing a load while watching his partner playing with her pussy. That level of candaulism is going to require a willfully participating/exhibitionist partner, and a suitable location like an adult venue/resort (like Cap D'Agde or Hedo), or an isolated stretch of beach. Not a busy part of a nude beach or an AANR resort!
I consider myself to be more of a "soft candaulist" (I'm making up terms today lol!) Which brings me back to your point. I'm more interested in the "passing" reactions from other people as they see my wife in various "exposed" positions. Be it when she bends over or squats to pick up something, or stands - on the edge of the pool or on a paddle-board - with her legs open just enough for people to see her pussy lips. It's the "double-takes", the "oh wow!" facial expressions, and "covert glances" from other people that puts a smile on my face. It's even more fun if she's aware of being looked at and chooses to express confidence in being seen "exposed." And it is in fact completely harmless. And other nudists also just consider it harmless.
My best friend once asked me about having a "hardcore candaulist experience." I told him it's just not my thing. Someone being hard around my wife has happened; and I was fine with it because the guy clearly didn't have "sexual intent." But masturbating and ejaculating in front of her crosses my line.
I am like you in that I too consider myself to be more of a "soft candaulist". I like when my wife is naked in front of other men, but I usually prefer that she be subtle. I think she looks very sexy that way. Years ago, when we were at Key West, we sunbathed nude on an old wooden dock. The other men, most of whom had shorts on, had a very nice view of my lovely wife including every inch of her body. I was very aroused by that situation and still think about it.
To clarify my previous post, none of those persons who saw my wife sunbathing nude on that old wooden dock were disrespectful. I wouldn't have put her in a situation if I thought she would be blatantly gawked at. Also, it wasn't just men who were there. There were both men and woman. One woman briefly took her swimsuit off so that she could skinny dip, but put it back on when she got out of the water. Another woman sunbathed topless next to her husband. There was also a young Asian couple sitting right next to us who were fully clothed. I think they were tourists from Japan. I got kind of excited that the husband had such a nice view of my wife.
What used to excite me a lot were those situations where a male who got to see my wife naked was not a nudist himself or the situation was unexpected. My wife and I have had a few experiences like that. Maybe we might be at a nudist event and the person was attending for the very first time and my wife, being friendly, would go up to the person and chat with him. One time when we were attending a nude swim at a recreation facility, a young man who was an employee at the facility walked into the locker room just after my wife had rinsed off in the shower. She told me that he started chatting with her while she was drying herself. She was completely nude while he had his swim trunks on. I thought that was very exciting although I wouldn't have liked it if had tried to take advantage of her. The experience that we had that was the least related to nudism happened shortly after we were married. I know that this may sound made up, but it really did happen. My wife and I were at the mall and she was trying on swimsuits. She would have been maybe 24 at the time. Apparently, she didn't close the curtain all the way and a young man who was waiting outside the dressing room for his girlfriend got to see my wife completely naked. He could see her in the mirror the same as I could. It was too late for me to tell her to close the curtain.