How I came out as bi to my wife.
This happened a little while ago so I figured I would get it out because why not!
I just came out as bi to my wife. It wasn't as hard of a process as my stupid brain made it out to seem so there's that. but I guess a little background is in order.
Oooo. How far back should I go? You know what this is a good and happy post so I am not going into my first bi experiences. That can be another post if anyone cares. So let's just go back to a couple years ago.
I have always been bi or bi curious which tends to be the safe thing to call yourself. While going through a period that some might call being "super gay" I realized that going back to gay porn and looking at straight porn and loving my wife means more than I am letting it. The idea of being with another man, and being with her seemed like such fun. I couldn't just be bi curious. Granted I have not done anything with a guy in a very long time, but that doesn't matter. What I feel who I am is and if I actually get comfort with this discovery so much the better. So take that you no true bisexual people! Just kidding, but this is my identity now and you absolutely cannot take it away from me.
So It's now New Years Day (likely the day after since I am posting this late) and my wife and I are just chilling in bed and we decided to put some porn on. Started out with some fairly normal stuff that is also a little bit of her kink. Public sex, elevator, sex on the beach. Let let me pick a video where two guys are having sex with one of the guy's wife. I asked her what she thought about that idea and she said she preferred seeing more of the guys. Well you want to see more guys we might have to get into some bi scenes. So that is what we did. After some kissing and some rubbing I asked her if she would be open to some of the things she was seeing on the screen. Two guys servicing the woman, him servicing me. Then I said, I could see myself doing that when two guys were in a 69. She was open to that idea so I asked her what she thought if I told her I was securely bi.
That is when she threw me out and I never saw her again and I am posting this from a McDonalds parking lot where I am going to sleep tonight!
No, actually she was ok with it! saying that whatever makes me happy and that while she would be nervous, she would be willing to try things with me in the future! It's such a relief off my chest. Proves to me that our love is stronger than ever and am so lucky to be with her!
Now just need to set up some fun for us this year!
I sometimes forget how secure we are in our relationship. We have talked about an open marriage, but didn't do anything about it till now (though technically haven't done anything yet). The fact that we are calling it so is a new dynamic that I can't wait to explore. I have also joked about orgies and such, but one thing at a time lol.