Up until 2015, I was regularly giving full body massages to a now former friend who had ED issues. About once a week I would give him a massage so he could work on getting an erection normally. To make a long story short he was addicted to porn, so that's what was messing him up in the bedroom. Even during our massage sessions it was difficult for him to get rock hard. Whenever I get to chatting with younger men I always tell them to get off the porn. It ruins your ability to have meaningful sex in real life. Excessively getting off on porn does and will give you ED problems.
I still enjoy giving full body massages. I'm developing arthritis in my hands so I'm unable to go for long 2 hour sessions like I once did.
I had a couchsurfer visiting. He was straight and very tall. A nudist too. So we hung out naked a lot, talking openly about everything on our minds.
One day we exchanged massages. i enjoyed so much massaging him. It was a unique and new experience for me, to touch his whole body with great respect and yet great intimacy, but not in any sexual way.
That day I learned the thin line between intimacy and sexuality. And it inspired me to peruse some education in massage techniques both classic, and sensual.
My whole experience with massage exchange started with one guy that posted on what then was CL looking to find me after we meet at a spa. I was shocked when friend said, 'I think the post is about you". I replied and sure he wanted to talk to me about getting a massage, he was going to give me a massage. Until that day, I had only had massages from females. I agreed to meet him at his place. I arrived rather nervous and he put me at ease quickly after some small talk. He got nude, which was something we'd agreed to since we'd already seen each other nude at spa. The massage he gave me was out of this world but I had stated he couldn't do my ass or genitals. He was Ok with that. After he'd finished giving me a massage, he asked if I wanted to give him one. I'd never done one but why not. Now looking back at that day, some 10 years go, I was bad at it, but he was complimentary and stated that I had a good touch and with some practice I would be good at it. So over the next few months, we would get together once a week and he give me instructions. He finally got a 'dummy' (a friend) for us to practice on. I also slowly eased up on the no ass and genitals, how ever there was no 'happy endings' given though we all three would get erections.
He also introduced me to a massage exchange site after a few months and I started to explore giving massages and getting them from others. I quickly learned that boundaries needed to be talked about. A few had wanted to have sex (blow jobs, hand jobs and even request to fuck). I was taken back by those guys as they would use the massage as foreplay to having sex. One thing my friend had stated, a massage is to aide the individual to experience his body and relax it in ways he never had experience before so sex was not part of a massage. I also got comfortable with the aspect of sensual massage when you use all your senses in giving a massage and release all the senses in the individual receiving the massage. You can use more than your hands to aid in the sensual aspect of the massage, different body parts such as your facial hair, finger nails, teeth, tounge, blowing on individual to arouse his senses. Now 10 years later, individuals that receive my massages are liked "wow' at the end, more than half have full release that isn't aided with hand or month, it comes naturally. Yes some do JO themselves but most just release without my or their help, which in most cases is the first time they've ever experience that type of release. It all comes from using their sense and my touch/massage. Those that dont release all have pre cum and have erections. I've had total 'straight' guys release which is totally mind blowing to them. What is more interesting is some guys that have full release when they still on their belly's and haven't flipped over, those are the individuals that are tuned to their senses.
I get few questions, like where did you learn that. Easy, I explored my body. I take time to 'time out'. I turn off everything and lay on bed and slowly explore my body. Find what turns my senses on and then I record that in my mind. Next time I do a massage, I try it on the individual and wait for any reaction. Example was I found that if I pulled on my hairs on my balls, it was a sensation that send shock waves in different directions - down my legs, into my butt and lower back but the most effect was that by balls contacted with the sting of the hair been pulled so slightly. Now I do that to all guys that have hairs on their balls and the reactions are amazing. Yes guys balls contract some more than others and also if I'm pulling one or if I pull 2 or 3 or use both hands and pull one on each ball. Some guys will react a vocal sound and some with other body parts - ass, legs, neck, shoulders- reacting. If they are on their back, there is usually a reaction of their penis. If semi, it gets harder and then relaxes. If hard it just gets firmer. Now image doing that to other body parts, just for a minute or two and returning back to massaging.
There are ways also to massage the genitals without JO or BJ of MR Penis. Techniques around the balls as I wrote above is one, and you can simulate on a guy that he feels like he's getting a JO but you are not JOing his penis. It's to difficult to explain in writing but guys are totally thinking they are getting a JO and react accordingly.
I can not really recall the last time I had a guy not happy at the end of the exchange. Most are lost for words and only want to go to sleep (and some do and release that way). The male body is a unique and wonderful creation that most of us guys have no idea of what it is capable of doing in the aspect of sensual since we skip that part and go sexual to get MR Penis to be happy.
That is a good point! For me what I'm calling massaging is really a slow form of foreplay. I'll often use the term interchangeably.There is massage and then there is foreplay. Most people don't know the difference.I think people know the difference, but they like to move from massage to foreplay or foreplay, massage, then foreplay, or something else.
I too used to attend a group in North London where the teacher used to teach the techniques and we pair off and practice, it was fun, massaging each other. Several of the techniques were very sensual so it wasn't uncommon that there would be erections, or guys dripping precum and as you said, at the end of the class we could have a free for all and that was always fun for those who stayed to participate. I also attended the Turkish bath in London that another poster mentioned. I enjoyed giving and receiving rub downs as they call it. Unfortunately the vibe of that place has changed considerably as management was getting a bee in their bonnet about "gays" using it as another place to hook up, which is a bit hypocritical as other guys of various orientations used to also get erections and have a bit of a fiddle, and I stopped going because I felt I could no longer enjoy having a massage and also being worried if I happened to get an erection and risk being asked to leave. However, I can say I do have fond memories of the place and a lovely group of men across all backgrounds who go there.
Back when I was still living in the states, I attended a group massage lesson and five of us paired off and we gave each other a four person massage it was so much fun, and towards the end became quite sensual. I enjoy seeing another man enjoy having his body touched, and seeing him let go and relish in the moment, and when a guy allows himself to be free enough to become aroused without fear of judgement or embarrassment it's a beautiful experience and a nice bonding moment between men.
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