Theory of why we like to exhibit
I have a thought about why exhibiting myself feels good. I think it has to do with vulnerability. I feel vulnerability and sexual expression is *very* hot. For instance I love eye contact during sex. I also enjoy being naked in front of strangers and being watched while masturbating. Orgasming in front of someone else is a very vulnerable, honest, and hot moment. I think in these moments I feel exposed and vulnerable and that's sexy. Thoughts?
My theory, and experience, is more about openness. I just enjoy showing my most intimate part to anyone who is willing to look. There may be a link between openness and vulnerability. In both cases we are hiding absolutely nothing - showing our true, intimate selves.
I agree with your thoughts. I have also found that it doesn't diminish as I get older. When I was younger (thinner, fitter, etc.), I loved having others see me. I'd even stand in front of my car's headlights at night totally naked. Now, I get really turned on with eye contact, totally naked, fully hard, and even knowing that I'm doing it with an "older body" - not perfect shape, but just putting my own horny self on display - regardless what I look like. With the vulnerability - and throw in an ounce of humiliation - I'm turned on being watched, especially if I can be watching others do the same thing.
I agree with your thoughts. I have also found that it doesn't diminish as I get older. When I was younger (thinner, fitter, etc.), I loved having others see me. I'd even stand in front of my car's headlights at night totally naked. Now, I get really turned on with eye contact, totally naked, fully hard, and even knowing that I'm doing it with an "older body" - not perfect shape, but just putting my own horny self on display - regardless what I look like. With the vulnerability - and throw in an ounce of humiliation - I'm turned on being watched, especially if I can be watching others do the same thing.
I've actually talked about this a lot lately, and for me it's got a few angles, hard to say the "source" of the thrill (and these are kind of in order chronologically).
1. I had the urge from a very young age to expose myself, and got in trouble for getting naked in front of the neighbors when I was in kindergarten.
2. I found my Dad's Penthouse mags maybe at 7yo, all from the late 70's and early 80's, when the aesthetic was natural women and a lot of outdoors. Some included men. The idea of a couple being nude in a sexualized context outdoors intrigued me.
3. When I was 10-11, I found nude photos of my parents. Dad took them, mostly of my mom, posing for the camera. But it cemented the fact that showing off and exposing yourself was this sort of underground thing that people did; not talked about, but from my little experience, maybe the norm?
4. When I was 14, I would take nude walks in the woods and masturbate. I also photographed myself. I was recreating the erotic thrill of the images that informed my development.
5. Behind this was always the thrill that I was doing something wrong. That society hides our sex organs, our anuses, using the toilet, etc. The idea of exposing and embracing those parts of me was a thrill (pissing outdoors is exciting to me too).
At this age, it's the sense that I'm exposing my most intimate self, the part people are raised to feel shame about, that thrills me and I find actually very healthy. To me the ultimate exhibitionism is openly displaying your anus - not in a "come fuck me" way, but in a "hey, here's my anus" kind of way. :)
Thanks for reading. Happy to chat to like-minded freaks!
I read and I thought I read the course of my life, I lived the same thing (except the photos of my parents). We are probably a lot of people who have experienced this. Thanks for sharing this i know less abnormal if i may say so.
I have a thought about why exhibiting myself feels good. I think it has to do with vulnerability. I feel vulnerability and sexual expression is *very* hot. For instance I love eye contact during sex. I also enjoy being naked in front of strangers and being watched while masturbating. Orgasming in front of someone else is a very vulnerable, honest, and hot moment. I think in these moments I feel exposed and vulnerable and that's sexy. Thoughts?
There are two things I wanna point out... because there are two main biological processes involved and as we can see, a variety of overlapping, interlinked and personally more important psychological characteristics that with the physiological effects create the pleasure we feel... note that for some, it would be terror and not pleasure (like for me when in my 20s) but interestingly the physiology of both reactions is very very closely related.
Excitement, a sense of danger or risk, exposed skin and reactions to being seen all cause adrenaline, dopamine and serotonin to be released, adrenaline in smaller or larger amounts depending on the fight or flight response (fear leading to aggression or the desire to flee) generally we dont recognize the steps its that panic excitement or disorientation that happens when feeling vulnerable and exposed (which when habituated is more like a rush or a zing), dopamine is the calm down and relax neurotransmitter and serotonin is the one most associated with pleasure and euphoric joy. How you experience this combination in what proportion and relate it to what emotions or ideological frameworks is going to be yours and uniquely yours.
For me, the experience moved from terrifying to uncomfortable to pleasure with a bit of work to pleasurble innately and freeing but I had to work on it and had help.
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