What Constitutes a Friend?
I'd like my "friend" list to actually reflect people who have an interest in me and people that I want to be friends with as well. It seems a lot of people request to be friends and then are never heard from again. What tips and tricks do you have to figure out who is and who isn't really a friend on here?
I'm less fussed, but I prefer to see a profile with some activity. Since I'm posting rather than chatting, I accept that some that appear quiet may want to follow me to get my activity to appear in their timeline, and on the rare occasion I friend others, it's for the same reason. I'm not collecting friends for the sake of it and haven't thought to check the list, either here or at TN. But I'll scroll back through my timeline to see what's been happening.
My method would be (not in that order)
- review the profile
- accept as friend if it's certified & in regular contact (ie. Chatting)
- "SPRING CLEANING" regularly for any unattended profile or peoples who does bother to chat back
I appreciate the responses, but it seems most people are talking about how you initially decided to include someone on your friend list. My interest is how do you figure out whether or not to keep them on there? After the initial contact, the exchange in chat, and the pics that all seem like a great connection, what happens when after you have become "friends" there is no contact at all? Do you keep those on your friend list or do you eliminate them? Most recently, I've been going through my list and anyone who hasn't been on the site in the past two months is unfriended since I figure they aren't even active on the site.
I have not even checked my "friend list" (guess I should). I do remember who I've chatted with. Especially, like with you, it's been a fun, sexy, horny chat on cam. I plan on keeping you on my list but will probably remove a bunch of others.
Someone requests to be a friend, and since he was a 'friend' when I was under a different account, so I accepted it. When he was in the chatroom, I said hello and other greetings a couple of times, and he never responds. So I unfriended him, then after a while he sends me a friend request. WTF??
I tend to not take the "friend" designation maybe as seriously as others on here. I ask someone to be my friend if I see a picture of theirs that I like or something in their profile that interests me. If they accept, I like to be kept current on what they are posting. I fully understand that some post a lot, some a little, but I don't hold them up to some standard that they have to meet in order to remain my friend. I have a lot of information about myself on my profile so I assume that when people accept my request or ask me to be their friend, they have seen something they like or are interested in. Nothing more than that. In any event, nothing to take too seriously.
That's a good perspective. In other words, you are using it as a form of bookmarking to identify members you have an interest in. Part of my problem is that I'm just getting damn old and forgetful. I recently had someone private message me that they enjoyed chatting with me a few months ago and wanted to know if we could continue. I'm thinking, great, now what the hell did we chat about? Some websites offer the opportunity to make private notes on people's profiles that only you can see, so you can write little reminders to jog your memory. Otherwise, it's hard to tell one dick from another!
I appreciate the responses, but it seems most people are talking about how you initially decided to include someone on your friend list. My interest is how do you figure out whether or not to keep them on there? After the initial contact, the exchange in chat, and the pics that all seem like a great connection, what happens when after you have become "friends" there is no contact at all? Do you keep those on your friend list or do you eliminate them? Most recently, I've been going through my list and anyone who hasn't been on the site in the past two months is unfriended since I figure they aren't even active on the site.
I categorically reject the idea that a friend here is anything like a friend in the flesh. I think it's a good start to the point of it becoming a friendship but there's just not enough of the complexity and physical emotional and psychological realities that build a life long friendship. It's moreover not designed to make real this concept. Older users myself included misunderstood and misunderstand the use of friend online. It's not intended to be analogous. It's intended to help hide the fact that it is not. There's a whole bunch of people who hold to the notion that few friends indicates some kind of sophistication and maturity and hundreds demonstrates the opposite but this is Pokmon land. Gotta catch em all. It's designed to advance maximal lists. And I haven't seen one account curated to local actual people that exist as friends yet. So, long list short list what's the difference? What is keeping the extras doing that is negative or why's junking them positive? Removing them doesn't improve the quality of the relationship with those people who stay does it? I have met two people from here not from my city not from before. I have talked to hundreds and thousands of people. Most people have zero interest in anything that is outside the internet. So keeping it in mind is a good whackload of virtual relationships that you never want realized or never will even in your keep list what's the point of that? I don't discount that online only can have a decent character and outcome of experience but one, two, ten emails what's the cutoff?
You decide for you but I think it's overthinking
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